After Martine moves (see thought for May 2025), we are now faced with another chapter in Martine's life. This one may seem more or less profound depending on your own experiences, but it is just as direct.
After changing concrete aspects of her environment, Martine must now turn her attention to her inner self. You know, those famous questions:
«Why do certain situations hurt me?»
«What does that remind me of?»
«What are my needs?»
«What are my values and are they being respected?»
«Why is my inner child crying?»
«What patterns am I repeating?»
«Why do I stay in this discomfort?» and again and again.
But where to begin?

During two recent coaching sessions, I was struck by the recurring use of «absolute words» such as «all or nothing», «always or never», «nobody or everybody», appearing in expressions like «It's not going well, and yet I do everything to make it go well», «Nothing succeeds for me», «It's always the same thing», «Nobody listens to me».

Have you ever coached someone who came to you with a rather vague enthusiasm (which remains to be defined), a somewhat nebulous problem, and a goal as easily definable as the Loch Ness Monster in dense fog?

Pendant longtemps, j’ai regardé les autres en me disant : j’aimerais tellement être comme eux. Faire simplement les choses sans tout remettre en question. J’ai cru que quelque chose n’allait pas chez moi.

Il m’a fallu du temps pour comprendre quelque chose de simple : le problème n’était pas mes pensées, mais la manière dont je me battais contre elles.